The Art of the Way

October 29, 2019November 11, 2019

Secret to Happiness

A secret go happiness is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be. - Loubis and Champagne — Secret to Happiness

You can get rid of a lot of misery in your life by accepting what is instead of what you want it to be.

People, events, and situations happen all outside of you. Just because any of these do not happen the way you wanted it to or the way you expected it to does not mean that you are in control of it. Relax nothing is in control.

Once you can let go and let it be you will be able to handle situations like this easier. You will be a lot happier once you relinquish control and let things unfold as the universe directs it to.

Just because the situation did not do what you expected it to or it seems to make things worse does not mean that it was meant to be. This could be a blessing in surprise that you do not realize yet. Maybe you got fired from your job and in a few months you end up doing what you really wanted to do and are much happier. Maybe this is the universes way of kicking you in the butt and getting you fired so that you can do what you were really meant to do and be happier!

October 24, 2019October 24, 2019

Success and Happiness

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing you will be successful.” – Buddha

I thought I would type the quote in here because it is hard to read on the image.

This quote is close to Plato’s quote of finding a job you love then you will never have to work a day in your life.

Who would you rather hang around with or do business with? A grump or someone that is happy? If you answer that question you can see more clearly on how this quote is true.

“Do what you love, love what you do.” – Wayne Dyer

“There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.” – Wayne Dyer

Don’t be one of the people that dooms themselves by saying to themselves they won’t be happy until X and Y happens. This can lead to a life of unfulfillment and misery. Instead, be one of those people that choose happiness and let the success and abundance flow to you instead.

October 23, 2019

The Key to Happiness

This key to happiness quote comes from The Art of Ancient Wisdom that has excellent quotes online and I strongly suggest you follow this Facebook page.

If you can accept and understand the situation that you are in instead of thinking it should be another way you will find more peace.

Too many people go through life being unhappy because things don’t go as they wanted or expected it to be. Many people have to learn to let go and let God. She knows what she is doing. Sometimes if you look at the situation not going as you think it should have gone you will discover that there is a hidden purpose to help you. The universe unfolds as it should a lesson is to be learned at every turn and the situation not going the way you planned maybe the universe nudging you to take a closer look at yourself.

October 23, 2019October 24, 2019

9 Things to give up if you want to be happy

Here is a favorite list that I like to meditate on. It is a list that will help you live a happier life. If you give up on these nine things you will have a more peaceful life and bring more peace to the people around you.

You can spend a meditation session for one day on each of these on the list.

The Need for Approval. If you are looking for approval outside of yourself you will never be happy. Just think about it one thing that you did will be approved by one person but not the next. “What other people think of you is none of your business.” If you feel what you did aligns with your spiritual self then that should be enough. You will never find the correct approval from outside of yourself. If you try to get approval from other people to make them happy you will never be happy yourself.
The Need to Impress Others. Why do people do this? Most of the time people do this because they do not think too much of themselves and have low self-esteem so they want to take the easy way out and get quick recognition from others to make themselves feel better. The only trouble with this is that recognition does not last long and does not really solve the problem. You would really need to become a person that naturally impresses other people and you will find that when you are you will have no desire to impress others and are whole/complete inside.
The Need to Always be Right. Wayne Dyer has said, “Would you rather be right or at peace?” One time I remember in high school I have gotten into a big argument with someone over the lyrics of a song. I started jotting them down and another student recognized the lyrics and said he liked that song but corrected me on what the lyrics were. But I was 100% positive what I wrote down was right, he was 100% right that his lyrics were right and what started out as a bonding experience turned into a heated argument that left bad feelings on both sides. Was it worth it to be right? I don’t think so.
Dwelling on the Past. This is a bad one for me. Some people can handle it better than others though. Really, it happened in the past. It is done with, nothing can be done anymore about it except learn from it and move on. Read the Time and Money Quote to help you conquer this inner demon.
Resistance to Change. When I read of this one I immediately thought of the book “Who moved my cheese?” by Spencer Johnson. One instance in this book a group of people were discussing their lives and one shared a story of the encyclopedia business his family was in where they were resisting change from paper to CDs and because of that they almost went out of business. Unfortunately, resistance to change is a common human reaction. This book has a duel story of two mice named Hem and Haw that go through the maze with their reactions to blocks along the way. The other part of the book is a group of people discussing the book and how it compares to their own lives. An excellent read to help you get rid of stumbling blocks.
Negative Self-Talk. Why! Why fill yourself with negativity! Garbage in is garbage out. People do this on a constant basis and never feel fulfilled in life! Worse yet there are many people that do this out loud and are looking for self-pity.
Limiting Beliefs. This reminds me of the quote from Michelangelo, “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short, but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” If you have limiting beliefs you can never achieve personal greatness. Do not think poorly of yourself but instead think of all the things you would be proud of what you have done, what you are capable of and you will get rid of your limiting self-beliefs. Focus is the key here.
Blaming Others. Blaming others is a classic shift of responsibility. All this will do is keep you from fixing yourself and create anger and negativity with those around you. Especially the one that you blame. If you cannot accept responsibility and look inward you will live an unbalanced life and never take care of the true source of the problem.
Complaining. Yes, you may want to vent to someone and complain to them and hope that you will find someone that is a good listener. In a Barbera De Angelis tape program about relationships the mistake men make when a woman comes to them with a problem is that they try to give suggestions on how to fix their question but all the woman really wants is somebody to listen to. They are not seeking answers. Yes, you may want reassurance and that will help you but sometimes complaining can become more strong than what it should be. Instead of complaining try thinking of what is good about this situation? It will help you focus on the positive and eventually help you solve the problem. Too many times people complain to others without looking within and realizing how minor it really is in the grand scheme of things. This inner-awareness will help you tremendously.

October 10, 2019

Where to Seek Happiness

Happiness is your nature. It is not wrong to desire it. What is wrong is seeking it outside when it is inside. - Sri Ramana Maharshi — Where to Seek Happiness

A lot of times we seek happiness outside of ourselves. We won’t be happy unless this happens or until that happens or until this person does this, etc.

When you put conditions on being happy you will end up spending life with the goal of being happy out of your reach.

“Happiness is like a butterfly. When pursued it is always beyond your grasp but if you sit still it enlightens upon you.” I am not sure but I think I read that quote in the book, Zen and the Birds of Appetite by Thomas Merton. If I am wrong and the quote is not in there the book has a wealth of information in there to take the confusion out of life and make you look at life in a different way which in turn makes your life so much better. It is one of the most favorite books that I have ever read. This is the book that I read that helped me reach a level of enlightenment.

Wayne Dyer paraphrased a famous quote, “There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.” This is so very true! For too many times in my life, I have always put conditions on my happiness. This has given me great drive to succeed in almost every area of my life. But at what cost? I have missed out on a lot of happiness in my life with this limiting self-belief. I could have been happy the whole time and just as ambitious. The funny thing about this quote is that if you seek happiness from within and become truly happy success will follow you like a shadow that never leaves.